I spoke with a great group last week about the importance of getting and staying out of the box.
In this conversation, we talked about what it means to be in the box and how when we’re in the box, we lure people into the box to justify our being there.
The fact is that being in the box, while comfortable (the devil you know), is toxic. We see people as objects and obstacles and fail to see them as real people. When we intentionally free ourselves from our box (and this is work), we release ourselves from a victim mentality and allow ourselves to live productively and with purpose.
Let me interject that living with a victim mentality looks very different on different people. For some, and we have all known folks like this, it looks like it sounds.
- “The world is out to get me.”
- “I can’t catch a break.”
- “I can never seem to get ahead.”
I’m sure you can add plenty to these as well. For others, a victim mentality looks more like focusing on the competition instead of focusing on your own business. If you’re focusing on your competition instead of your customers or own team, then you’re doing it wrong.
Regardless of what your box looks like, staying in it is a choice. You can make a better choice! When I say that life is a series of choices, I’m not just talking about what cereal to eat or what socks to wear. I’m talking about every single choice we make every day. We choose to respond negatively to that email. We choose to be defensive with that receptionist at the doctor’s office. We choose to make a snarky remark to that coworker.
Conversely, and very importantly, we choose to make positive impacts throughout every given day, too. We choose to expect the best out of people. We choose to encourage a friend or coworker. We choose to forgive. We choose to forget.
Whatever your circumstances, your choices define you, and people are noticing. They’re noticing where you aim your sphere of influence, and they’re adjusting accordingly to either migrate toward your light or avoid you like the plague. Which do you prefer?
My hope is that we do the most and best with this one life that we’re given. My hope is that we encourage each other, lift each other up, succeed wildly, and find the good in as many people as possible (even when they sometimes cannot).
After all, life is a series of choices. How will you make better choices and get out of your box today? Tomorrow Begins Today.