If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

zipped mouthBeing positive is a choice.  Finding the good in people is a choice.  Empathizing with people is a choice.  Participating in the betterment of others is a choice.  As much as these actions are true, so are their opposites.

Studies have concluded with great evidence that our brains have a natural negative bias.  Our brains react more intensely to negative than positive events.  Negative thoughts create more activity in the brain.  Dealing with dangerous, scary, threatening information is fundamental. It’s about survival. Life or death. It doesn’t get much more fundamental than that.

It’s also been demonstrated that when your mind isn’t engaged in anything in particular, it tends to drift randomly. Thoughts of all kinds stream through an idle mind.  But eventually, in its random meandering, the mind will think of something negative, and then what happens?

It sticks.

Our propensity for negativity also leads us to generalizations that function as “mistakes.”  Words like “everyone” and “always” are giant red flags that we need to listen for in our internal and external conversations.  They are key indicators that we’ve gone down a rabbit hole, and we need to back out.

One way to train ourselves to slant toward the positive is to concentrate on the good in others.  Rather than focusing on how someone detracts, we have to focus on what that person contributes.  We each make uniquely positive contributions, and magnifying those traits is far more valuable and, frankly, more interesting than a flowing stream of negativity.

Make it a point starting today to say something nice about someone.  Make it a point to find the good in someone else.  Make it a point to invest in someone else, and see how valuable that new habit becomes in terms of your own happiness and the joy of those around you.

Life is good!  See that!  Tomorrow Begins Today.

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