It‘s true that fear is crippling. It’s also true that fear is usually rooted in past experience that colors what we believe will be our future results. It’s further true that fear is a natural response to uncertainty.
How, then, are we supposed to move from fear to freedom?
Freedom, TRUE FREEDOM, is achieved when we stand up straight, open our eyes fully, and firmly say (and believe) “Fear has no place here!” Ask yourself “What would I do differently today if I weren’t afraid?” Really ask yourself this question, and start writing down all of the answers that come to mind. Would you quit your dead-end job? Would you walk right out the door from that abusive relationship? Would you start that new business? Would you call that person from whom you’ve been separated and apologize?
The truth is that fear is something that we make up. We aren’t meant to be creatures of fear. We are meant to be creatures of purpose. We are meant to walk with authority and intention. Why, then, do we live and operate in fear?
More importantly, how do we stop?
First, acknowledge that you’re afraid. It’s not shameful. It’s honest. Admit that you are afraid and name your fear. In this first step, you’re most likely to learn some fairly revealing things about yourself. It’s not what you learn here that defines you. In this step, you are defined by your searching. Not searching, and hiding under a rock, is far worse than anything you’ll find in your search.
Second, ask why. Why are you afraid of what you discovered in the first step? Is there history that you’re carrying forward with you that belongs in the past? Did something or someone injure you at some point and cause you to associate that pain with other unrelated things?
Third, ask yourself what you would do if that fear was gone. If you could wave a magic wand today and make that fear disappear, what would/could you do differently? What would you look like? What would you sound like? How would others respond to you?
Finally, imagine what freedom from that fear could mean to you! If, like me, you believe that we are meant to live free and not in fear, you have to be willing to call bullshit from time to time on your fear. In confronting fear, we’re actually calculating opportunity cost. By giving power to your fear, you’re neglecting to do something else. What is it? Can you see yourself physically holding these two things up next to each other and weighing the actual trade you’re making by not choosing freedom?
Life is too short to not live free. Life is too short to be afraid. Life is far too short to waste even a single moment of it crippled by our fears and depriving ourselves of TRUE FREEDOM.
Do it today! Kick fear to the curb, embrace freedom, and say it with me:
“FEAR HAS NO PLACE HERE!” Tomorrow begins Today.