Embrace Your Change (5YTL)

change1I had a great conversation with my friend, Betty, last week.  

Betty pointed out how many things had happened in the last year to throw her off her “plans.”  With death, resulting home purchase and extensive remodeling, and many other things in play, she said she didn’t have a chance at maintaining her equilibrium as it was in years past.

Betty said that she had these ideas about how things were supposed to be, but all of these unexpected changes had really thrown her off her usual mojo.  The thing I enjoyed the most about her perspective is that she was praising how much better she felt when she let go of her old ways of thinking and embraced the changes that were happening. She was actually joyful.

Why do we cling to old notions of expectation?  Why do we deny ourselves potential abundance in deference to “the devil that we know?”  We do it, because we fear what we do not know.  We do it, because change represents uncertainty, and that scares the hell out of us.  

Whether it’s a new job, or a new relationship, or a different hairstyle, or even a new arrangement for our furniture, we resist change, because we can bank on what we have, and we may not be able to bank on change.

Here are a few ideas I’ve had rolling around in my head that relate to change and the abundance we stand to experience when we embrace it:

  • Change is inevitable, and we are powerless to stop it.
  • Resisting change is an exercise in futility, and we spend far more energy resisting it than we would if we embraced it.
  • Embracing change is surrendering to potential adventure, and adventures are exciting.
  • Acknowledging change is empowering and opens us up to potential for great joy.
  • Becoming part of the change gives us a vocabulary within the change and lessens our fear.
  • Driving change can be a lot of work, and it can be infinitely rewarding.
  • Becoming a change motivator means becoming a leader, and people admire strong leaders (and follow them readily).

Ultimately, our lives are changing constantly, and we can fight that or ride the change wave.  Be open to the changes you see around you and invite the opportunities that change brings.

We are meant to change and evolve.  While the changes aren’t always within our power to choose, we definitely have the power to choose how we are affected by change.  See the opportunities instead of lamenting the familiarity of your comfort zones.  There is a lot of good stuff in store for you if you trust, surrender, and take action.

It’s a big world.  Be a part of it!  Tomorrow Begins Today.

The Gift (5YTL)

Red-Holiday-GiftIt’s Christmas!

It is the season of giving.  It’s a time when we search our memories of the past year for clues of the perfect gifts to give the people in our lives that are important to us.  We study our minds for a hint in discussions about a need, want, or even something fun that we’d like to wrap up and surprise with. With great anticipation, we hand over or hide our present and look forward to seeing the face of our grateful recipient as they open their gift.

In a recent conversation, I was talking with a friend about the importance of investing in ourselves before we can invest in others.  My friend was citing his tendency to be a giver, often at the sacrifice of his own desires, needs, or happiness.  He said he knew he needed to invest in himself first, and that is his new goal as we move into this new year.

We do that a lot.  We get so focused on meeting expectations or keeping up with the Joneses or satisfying the needs of any given day that we forget we owe a gift to ourselves. We lose sight of that “goal” to which we were going to be faithful.  We prioritize down the most important items for the more immediate ones.  Today’s “crisis” owns our attention and devalues our long-term needs (Think retirement planning).

As we take time to love on each other, sing carols, share homemade meals, and soak in the spirit of this season, I want to plant a seed.  It’s fine to let it gestate in the back of your mind for a few days while you celebrate and snuggle up with friends and family.  Then…

I want you to think about the gift you need to give yourself as we turn a page on the calendar.  Whether it’s better health and wellness, or a better income, or a better attitude, or even a change of scenery, it is a gift you give yourself to make your gifts to others more meaningful and valuable.  To invest in yourself, you’ll have to make up your mind and make your choices intentional.

You have to give TO yourself before you can give OF yourself.  That’s not selfish.  It’s just the truth in humanity.  I’m not saying that your potential is limited, because it is not.  In fact it is unlimited, but its realization requires effort, planning, and measurement.  Think back over the last year to the perfect gift you could give YOURSELF.

Let’s set the right goals, map the appropriate action plans, and make a difference in ourselves.

Merry Christmas!  Tomorrow Begins Today.